To sum up mens' attitude towards women in Namibia I recall one comment made to me by a Namibian male: "Why don't you take [girls name]?". The important word is 'take' and this is literally a common way of thinking: women are there for the taking.
Now, I'm not trying to make out that I or the men of Britain are all perfect gentlemen. We're not. Most of us have done our fair share of insensitive chauvinistic acts. However Namibian men are repeat offenders and openly discuss it with a level of pride. Long story short I quote a volunteer who has been here for a while "Namibian men cheat."
I know this sounds like a nasty stereotype but I am yet to talk to a man here who has shown me otherwise. Having a girlfriend doesn't stop you being single; dating multiple women is a skill to flaunt; and excessively complimenting women is a sure way to get them into the sack. The sweet talk is a topic I will discuss further – the art of chatting up.
It isn't uncommon for a man to stand staring shamelessly at a women in a bar. If you want to speak to a girl then forget all social etiquette you already know. Point at the girl until she notices you then with a small hand gesture summon them over. Now, small talk still plays a part in chatting up in this culture but the talk is really kept small. Just "Hello, how are you?" and an introduction will suffice. Next step, tell them to give you their number. Tell – not ask. Maybe as she leaves request their company sometime. Company, I can only assume, is of a sexual nature, or 'being welcomed' as some have put it so nicely.
Alternatively the initial contact doesn't have to be pointing. If a friend knows a passer-by then you can just yell the strangers name. Then, of course, wave over and continue as above. What they are doing doesn't matter – a man's needs are for more important.
Once you have successfully done one of the mentioned methods move onto the next lady. Loaded with female numbers the smooth talk starts. "Beautiful lady" or "you are the one" are common phrases used in back to back phone calls to different women. "I love you" certainly lacks meaning and is just a tool for woo-ing. Admittedly this isn't unheard of in the UK either.
You won't be surprised that the multiple-person-dating isn't reciprocated by the more honest, loyal half of our species – women. This would be out of order. Double-standards at it's best.
I, myself, and what I hope is the same for most men, have never cheated and don't intend to. Still, I must praise the men of Namibia for being able to keep up with several girls at once. Keeping one happy is hard enough work in my opinion. Also the girls must be given credit for their tolerance. We have warned the Namibian guys that these tactics in the UK may attract a slap.
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